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How common is sexting among married couples?

How common is sexting among married couples?

Earlier this year, we looked at a study that suggested sexting can be healthy in a relationship, but that study primarily looked at non-married couples and the average age for the behavior was, as you may expect, young adult. Which may lead you to think that married couples don’t sext. In fact, married couples do report sexting, but it is much less common than in young adult relationships and consists more of intimate talk with their partners than sending nude or nearly nude photos via mobile phones, according to a new study.

The study further examines the link between sexting behavior and relationship satisfaction or ambivalence. Coauthors Brandon McDaniel, The Pennsylvania State University, College Park, and Michelle Drouin, Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne, report specific differences between sending sexy messages versus sexually explicit pictures and relationship quality for men compared to women with high/low levels of attachment anxiety or avoidance.

“Research in the past has suggested that sexting might be a useful therapeutic approach to increase intimacy in couples reporting for counseling. The current study, however, seems to indicate that sexting may still be seen as something used by those feeling less secure in their relationships.”

“Clearly more research is called for,” says Editor-in-Chief Brenda K. Wiederhold, PhD, MBA, BCB, BCN, Interactive Media Institute, San Diego, California and Virtual Reality Medical Institute, Brussels, Belgium.

If you are still interested and want to read the full study you can find it (for free, shock I know) at the website listed in the sources. There is a catch, it is only free until November 28, 2015. After that you will have to pay for it… unfortunately.

McDaniel, B., & Drouin, M. (2015). Sexting Among Married Couples: Who Is Doing It, and Are They More Satisfied? Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking DOI: 10.1089/cyber.2015.0334

3 responses

  1. You’d think that with trust comes security, and that an act such as seating wouldn’t happen without trust. Interesting that it’s believed that sexting may be a sign of insecurity. I would love to know more about this part of their research.


    November 7, 2015 at 12:11 am

    • I think the issue is now it is more of a way to convince your partner to stick around maybe? A social pressure to do what girls/guys are perceiving their peers are doing more than trusting your partner. Also being worried your partner will stray if she/he is no longer interested probably plays into it as well.

      Of course it could be more of a generational effect, I’m fairly sure the idea of sexting will change as the latest generation ages, but relationships are so complex it’s hard to say sometimes since the answers can be counterintuitive.


      November 9, 2015 at 3:06 pm

  2. *sexting


    November 7, 2015 at 12:11 am

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